Being A Freind......
To me, being a friends means being there for someone when they need it… Sometimes being there even when they say they don’t need it — but in this case, it requires some skills to make yourself ‘invisible’.
Being a friend to someone does not mean trying to change their way of thinking. Being a friend is not about telling your friend what is wrong. It is about giving advice (your opinion) and then providing support to them, regardless of whether they take your advice or not.
I guess many fail at this — sometimes I do too. As a ‘friend’, we think that our opinion is correct and that if our ‘friend’ does not follow, this means they are ‘wrong’. We end up nagging them and trying to change their thinking. By doing this, we ultimately push our
friend away.
I have seen a few cases where a friend gets into a relationship with someone that the rest of the friends (myself included) thinks its the wrong choice. As ‘friends’, we then tell that friend of ours that its wrong, it will be painful and that things will not work out. We nag, we scold, we preach…
I have seen a few cases where a friend gets into a relationship with someone that the rest of the friends (myself included) thinks its the wrong choice. As ‘friends’, we then tell that friend of ours that its wrong, it will be painful and that things will not work out. We nag, we scold, we preach…
But who are we to say what is right or not? If a friend decides that is what he or she wants, at most we can do is share our concerns. But if our friend wants to proceed, we should then support the friend and provide all the help and guidance. Instead of saying the relationship will not work out, we should try to share how to make a relationship work and last!
Correct?
wassalam
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